The Inner Work
Short, honest reflections on what happens inside us as parents, and why the hard moments are so hard. A new one each month.
Why Parenting Activates Our Own Childhood
The reactions that feel bigger than the moment usually aren't about the moment at all, they're older than we think.
Read more →Why Stress Shuts Down Reflective Thinking
Knowing exactly what to say and still not saying it isn't a failure of love. It's what stress does to all of us.
Read more →Why We Parent From Habit More Than Intention
The phrases that arrive already knowing the words. Habit does more of our parenting than intention ever does.
Read more →Fear Often Disguises Itself as Control
So much of what looks like strict parenting is really fear wearing a disguise, and a gentle question that loosens its grip.
Read more →Why Exhaustion Turns Reflection Into Reaction
The reaction that has nothing to do with your child at all, and why rest is part of how you parent, not a reward.
Read more →Why We Don't Trust What Our Children Can Do
The small phrases, said out of love, that quietly teach a capable child that they can't, and why trusting their competence is an act of respect.
Read more →Love Has Nothing to Do With the Rules
When we hold a limit, we're afraid we're being unkind, so we drop our warmth to prove we mean it. But the boundary and the love were never meant to be a choice.
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